To illustrate this fact, I was on the bus a few weeks ago (I use the public transit). There were two high school students who boarded the bus. Their bus passes were refused by the machine, which means that they had expired. However, the bus driver kindly allowed them to get on just the same. Neither of these students even thanked him! I was glad, though, that the driver said to each one of them, "Don't you know how to say 'thank you?'" This resulted in them realizing their mistake and they thanked the driver. It is not just "the younger generation" who are lacking in manners, I just used this experience as an example. :)
I remember the days where a gentleman would give up his seat on the bus for a lady...yes, it happens today, but sadly, it is a rare thing. I see people putting their feet up on seats on the bus, talking very loudly and using curse words, etc.
When I do see a polite or kind gesture or words, I smile, as I want to make it known that it is a good thing, and that just as bad behaviour can be contagious, good behaviour can as well! It has a domino effect.
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There's no equivalent for "please", in the Finnish language. So, when visiting Finland, I feel kinda rude whenever there's a situation where you'd normally say please. I know that no one's actually finding it rude as it just doesn't exist, but when you're used to saying it, the lack of it seems wrong..
ReplyDeleteManners are something we learn at home. When my grandchildren visit manners are required. Magic words are discussed & the proper way to use them.One step grandchild demanded a glass of milk & I asked what had happened to the PLEASE? He informed me that he didn't say please to anyone. My reply to that was that I was sorry, but at MY house we say please or we don't get what we want. My daughter got him his glass of milk. He would have done without if I'd had my way! I have several grandchildre who are not related by blood, but they are STILL my grandchildren. This one, I fear, will never cross into that territory No sense of family & no sense of manners.
ReplyDeleteHi Stella and Kim, thank you for your comments. Stella, I had no idea that there was no equivalent for "please" in Finnish. I learned something new today.
ReplyDeleteYes, I agree absolutely with you! "Please" and "Thank you" are still magic words, for sure.
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I find the same thing, manners are a thing of the past. Just today I was walking into the mall and I had to walk past a group of youths talking loudly, with lots of curse words.
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ReplyDeleteYou are so right on with this post. My husband and I, both retired educators, often comment on how civility is dead. We saw it in the classroom. Many times, it would take me an entire first nine weeks of school to teach proper behavior to my incoming ninth graders. I felt as if I were teaching basic manners and how to "do school." It is so sad to just see how uncivil people are in public.
so true.. manners and chivalry are rare in this day n age... its a shame.. and its also the parents fault for not instilling these in their children. I dont understand why parents refuse to teach their children and not give In to them when they refuse to listen?? its disrespectful not only to them but to the world..
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ReplyDeleteAutrefois je me souviens qu'on se retournait si quelqu'un n'obéissait pas à une certaine morale. Aujourd'hui on se retourne lorsque quelqu'un se comporte poliment... Dommage n'est-ce pas ?...
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This is so true of most teenagers now. Practically no one says "please" and "thank you", and I feel disturbed by this turn of events. People should educate each other about manners.
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ReplyDeleteI agree! So, I'll just say "Thank you very much for this post and may you have a wonderful day!" :-)
ReplyDeleteI found a great way to reinforce good manners with my grands is to have tea parties. They both love them and want to use their best manners for these special occasions.
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Im glad the kids did apologise - the only way you learn is by being told and sounds like nobody has trained them. So it's the parents fault too !
ReplyDeleteHere in London it is usually the ethnic minority people who offer seats.
Don't get me started on buses! School children in the UK normally take the regular city buses to school. The thing that really annoys me about a small number of them is that they sit in the back seat and put their dirty/wet feet up on the facing seats. And they don't move if you tell them!
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ReplyDeleteThank you so much for your comments and feedback! Linda, that is exactly what some school children and even some adults do here! It is very selfish, rude and disgusting.